5 Tips for Leading More Productive Meetings

Staff-MeetingIf churches are made up of people, than meetings are an inevitable, and important part of church life.  Meetings have gotten a bad reputation, but that doesn’t have to be the case in the place where you serve.  Here are a few tips to lead more productive meetings

  • Have a plan.  The old saying is true: If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. You may choose to send out a written agenda ahead of time, or make one up at the start of the meeting. Either way, have a plan and stick to it
  • Be flexible. Flexibility is a necessary complement to good planning. Sometimes new information comes to light or situations change, even during the middle of a meeting. Good leaders take advantage of changing situations and adapt whenever necessary.
  • Solicit input.  The best meetings are a collaboration of the best ideas in the room.  Be prepared to ask open-ended questions, listen, and clarify for the sake of the group.
  • Surface conflict. Not everyone will voice his or her concern or opposition to a decision. A good leader will find ways to bring divergent opinions and disagreement to the surface so that it can be dealt with. This is one way to encourage buy-in and support moving forward.
  • Clarify next steps.  Whether its further research, a follow-up meeting, or a phone call, every meeting can be improved by clarification. Make sure that everyone knows what is happening next and who is responsible for each step.

What other tips would you share with church leaders who want to improve the productivity of their meetings.?

Five Reasons Churches Struggle with Conflict

Conflict_Resolution_00It is sad to say, but church and conflict seem to go together like peanut butter and jelly.  The long running joke is that churches split over anything and everything, including something as insignificant to God’s kingdom as the color of the carpet.   But have you ever stopped to wonder why?  Here are five reasons why churches struggle with conflict:

1. Church members and leaders aren’t equipped to resolve conflict in a healthy way.

Disagreements are inevitable in ministry, but seminaries provide little training on conflict resolution.  Since church leaders are not equipped to handle conflict effectively they don’t teach church members those skills.  The conflict resolution skills that do exist in the church are either unintentionally brought in from some outside experience or sought out after failed attempts at handling conflict successfully.

2.  Church members and leaders would rather ignore conflict than acknowledge it.

Everyone has their own personality.  When it comes to conflict, many people would rather pretend that conflict doesn’t exist rather than do something about it.  This approach might seem easy at first, but it always seems to make things more difficult and destructive in the end.

3.  Church members and leaders bring years of unresolved conflict along with them.

The two previous reasons are compounded by the way church members and leaders move from church to church. When a new pastor or a new church member joins a church, they can bring their unresolved struggles. When these old struggles are layered over and combined with new conflicts it can be difficult to find solid emotional ground.

4.  Poor leadership development and placement systems allow immature people positions of power.

Churches that have lost people through poorly managed conflict can be eager for “new recruits.”  If these new members are talented or charming they can be thrust into positions of authority or influence without the proper preparation.  The same can be true for members who have been around for a long time.  These “veterans” can be given similar positions in the church with little thought to their spiritual maturity, giftedness, or character.  Both scenarios perpetuate conflict by placing people who are unable to handle conflict in a situation where they are sure to encounter it.

5.  Satan is the father of deception and he works to sow conflict in the church.

From the very beginning, Satan has been working to divide and conquer.  The half-truths that he told in the Garden of Eden left Adam and Eve in conflict with God and with each other.  Satan is still alive and well, sowing dissension and division among God’s people.  If you look carefully, you can find dishonesty, distrust, and pride at the root of most church conflicts today.

The Gospel is a message of reconciliation.  It tells us how sinful humans can be reconciled to a holy God and through that restored relationship, reconciled to each other.  As we train new leaders and equip more people to follow Jesus Christ, we need to help them acknowledge conflict in the church and resolve it effectively.  We also need to be aware of Satan’s corrupting influence.

What about you?  Have you noticed any others reasons why churches struggle with conflict?

 

Do We Really Need Mediation?

quotesIn a chapter calling pastors to the ministry of mediation, Alfred Poirier ties the ministry of mediation to Jesus Christ and the Gospel like this:

“From Genesis 3 to Revelation 21, the Bible is a book abounding with conflict – man against God, God against man, man against man.  But the Bible is more.  The Bible is God’s special revelation of his Reconciler.  It is the good news of God’s promise of a Mediator – the coming Prince of Peace.  The story of redemption is a story of reconciliation, and that reconciliation is all about assisted peacemaking.  Redemption calls for divine action; we cannot save or reconcile ourselves.  Reconciliation demands another.  Reconciliation requires the Messiah as Mediator.

-Alfred Poirier, The Peace Making Pastor: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Church Conflict (Grand Rapids: Baker Book, 2006), 185.