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Here Is My List for Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is not just a cultural or historical holiday, it is a biblical mandate. Here are just a few verses that encourage us to give thanks:

“O give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; For His lovingkindness is everlasting.” (1 Chronicles 16:33, NASB)<

“Praise the LORD! Oh give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; For His lovingkindness is everlasting.” (Psalm 106:1, NASB)<

“in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:15, NASB)

Since today is Thanksgiving, I thought I would share a list of things that I am thankful for this year.

I am thankful for the salvation I have in Jesus Christ.

I am thankful for my amazing wife and our four healthy, growing kids.

I am thankful for my friends and extended family who have loved and supported us through the ups and downs of the last few years.

I am thankful for our new church family – Unity Baptist Church in Ashland, Kentucky.

I am thankful for our new home and newly adopted dog, Roger.

I am thankful for my an opportunity to do what I love and what God has called me to do: preach, lead, and shepherd.

I am thankful for my health.

I am thankful for the freedoms and prosperity that we enjoy in America, compared to the rest of the world.

I am thankful for hope and a future because no matter what happens, I know that everything is in God’s hands.

What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving?

Devotional Thoughts for Leaders: Leading By Example

John 13:1-20

Jesus knew that his time was short when he gathered with his disciples to celebrate the Feast of Passover. So he got up from the meal and surprised them by setting aside his outer garment and wrapped a towel around his waist like a lowly servant. Then, he proceeded to wash the disciples’ dusty, dirty feet. When Peter objected, Jesus told Peter that he must be washed if he was to have anything to do with Jesus.

When Jesus finished, he returned to the table and questioned the disciples about what had just happened. Jesus told them that they were right to revere him as their Rabbi and Lord, but he went on to explain that leaders in God’s kingdom, must be servants as well as leaders. Then, he commanded them to follow the example he just given them of washing on another’s feet.

The thing that stands out about this passage is not just what Jesus said, but how he said it. In the closing days of Jesus’ earthy ministry, he taught his disciples about the important of humility in leadership. But he did much more than teach them or instruct them to serve others; he modeled it for them. He led by example.

Today’s Christian leaders would do well to support their directives, teaching, or instructions with a consistent example. Leadership is not just what you say, but how you act. It is as true in the conference room as it is in the pulpit – “Practice what you preach.”

Here are some questions to help you lead by example:

Are you sending any mixed messages in your leadership? Are you telling people to do one thing, but then doing another thing yourself? What can you do that fix that?

How can you adjust your leadership style to “show” as much as you “tell?” Are their lessons or principles that you are trying to communicate right now that need to be experience as well as explained?

How to Teach the Bible Through Discussion Without Missing the Point, Part 2

This is the second part of a two-part series on how to teach the Bible through discussion without missing the point of the lesson.

Interactive small group Bible studies can be a powerful tool for evangelism and discipleship, especially when they are combined with a dynamic church worship service and opportunities to serve and do ministry. Several weeks ago, I introduced this topic by pointing out 4 major challenges to leading an effective and interactive small group Bible study. Today, I will share 5 suggestions for teaching the Bible through discussion without missing the point and here they are:

1.Have a clear goal(s) in mind

Motivational speaker, Zig Ziglar is credited with the axiom, “If you aim at nothing, you will hit is every time.” If you don’t know what you are trying to teach, there is no way anyone else will either.

Discussion based teaching should not be used as an excuse for lack of preparation. Be flexible, but write down 1 to 3 goals, truths, or principles that you want to communicate.

2. Ask open-ended questions

Open-ended questions are designed to solicit participation and information from the group. They are questions that require more than a one word answer. When used strategically, they can create momentum and buy-in.

Open-ended question help you connect with your students, but they also help your students connect with each other. As group members hear others respond to questions they are urged to share their perspective and insights as well.

3. Deal with distractions

In part one of this two-part series, I listed distractions as one of the challenges that small group leaders have to overcome – they are inevitable. Instead of the ignoring a distraction, identify the “elephant in the room” and move on. And don’t forget to laugh, when appropriate. If something happens that is funny, enjoy the moment use it to bring your group closer together.

4. Clarify responses

Group discussions can become unproductive or confusing without some leadership. When needed, restate participants responses and ask if that what they meant, if they are unclear.

This kind of clarification can also be a good way to transition to another stage in the meeting or point in the lesson. It gives the leader an opening in the discussion while affirming the rest of the group.

5. Sensitively seek full participation

Part of a group leader’s job is to keep “the ball going.” If some of the members of your group are shy or introverted, you may have to find ways to engage them without embarrassing them. You may also have to gently restrain over-talkative group members by thanking them for the participation and asking others to chime in.

Do you have any suggestions you would add to the list? What have you found helpful in teaching the Bible through discussion without missing the point?

Two Aspects of Forgiveness

“Forgiveness is both an event and a process. Making the four promises of forgiveness (found earlier in the book) is an event that knocks down a wall that stands between you and the person who has wronged you. Then a process begins. After you demolish an obstruction, you usually have to clear away debris and do repair work. The Bible calls this ‘reconciliation,’ a process involving a change of attitude that leads to a change in the relationship.”

-Ken Sande, The Peace Maker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2004), 219

Devotional Thoughts for Leaders: Ministry Transitions

Acts 13 is the transition point between the Apostle Peter’s ministry “in Jerusalem, Judea, and Samaria” in the first half of the book and the soon to be Apostle Paul’s ministry “to the ends of the earth” in the second half. The church at Antioch was the first major church planted in those “ends” and things were going well. The church was growing fast and being discipled. Their leadership team, which included Barnabas and Saul, grew too, from 2 to 5 in just a few years.

But one day everything changed. While the church was “ministering to the Lord and fasting” the Holy Spirit sent orders for Barnabas and Saul to leave and set out for a new work. The leadership dream team was broken up and the church at Antioch had to adjust.

As the rest of the Barnabas and Paul’s ministry played out in the book of Acts, it’s important to realize God removed them from a good situation and placed them in a better one. God led both men, especially Paul, into an unprecedented mission ministry throughout the known world. Not only did Paul plant church all over the known world, he wrote half the New Testament. But none of that would have happened if they hadn’t left Antioch.

Changing your ministry responsiblity or location can be hard, but it helps to remember that when God removes us from a good situation, He places us in an even better one. And sometimes that situation is even better than we can imagine.

Devotional Thoughts for Leaders: Are You Carrying a Bronze Shield?

Are you carrying a bronze shield?

Revitalization is tough. When difficult times come into an organization, there is a temptation to ignore reality and pretend things are just fine. That’s what Judah’s king, Rehoboam, did. When his nation fell on hard times, Rehoboam went into denial and built a set of bronze shields.

To understand the significance of this, we need to rehearse a little Old Testament history. In 1 Kings 14:21, we learn that Rehoboam was the son of Solomon. Because Rehoboam acted foolishly during his coronation, God split the nation of Israel and only allowed Rehoboam to rule over the much smaller nation of Judah. As king, Rehoboam took evil to a whole new level, leading his people to do everything that the Canaanites had done that had gotten them kicked out of the Promised Land (v. 22-24).

When Solomon was king, he had so much gold, that silver was worthless. Solomon lined his palace with 200 large and 300 small golden shields that eventually became a symbol of Israel’s prosperity and security. These shields were passed down to Rehoboam, but not for long. In Rehoboam’s 5th year as king, God allowed Egypt to defeated Judah and take away all their treasure, include the golden shields. This loss signaled the end of an era and the loss of God’s blessing and protection (v. 25-26).

Instead of facing reality and admitting his sin, Rehoboam had a set of bronze shields made to replace the golden shields that were lost. In order to show that things were just as spectacular as they were in his father’s day, Rehoboam had his palace guards carry the bronze shields out in public whenever he went to the temple. But when they returned to the palace, they put the “show” shields away (v. 26-28).

Rehoboam will forever be remembered as the king who spilt the nation of Israel and lost Solomon’s treasure. His legacy should be an eternal warning to Christian leaders and even churches today who construct and carry a “bronze shield.” Instead of being open and honest about their present difficulties – and changing – some people would rather recreate things that were successful in the past so they can preserve their reputation. Ministries, programs, or emphases can all become “bronze shields” when they become excuses for going through the motions.

Here are 3 warning signs you or your church is carrying a “bronze shield.”

Consequences, conclusions, and change are avoided.
Energy is expending to recreate the past.
Things that are done in public are not repeated in private.

Does that describe you or your church? If so, are you willing to put down your “bronze shields” for a chance to be restored?

How to Teach the Bible Through Discussion Without Missing the Point, Part 1

This is the first part of a two-part series on how to teach the Bible through discussion without missing the point of the lesson.

We have all sat through our share of boring lectures. You’ve probably been lectured by your parents when you were growing up, maybe more than once. Odds are, you’ve also been lectured by a teacher in school or your supervisor at work. And if you’ve attended a small group Bible study at your church for any length of time, you’ve probably been lectured there too.

Most people seem content with one-way communication when it comes to the pastor’s sermon. But when it comes to a small group Bible study, one-way communication is often not enough. When people gather for a Sunday school class or an in-home community group they are usually looking for an opportunity to interact with one another and ask questions about the lesson. Even if the comments or questions are off topic, they are proof that the participants expect to participate in the lesson.

In my next post I will suggest 5 tips for teaching the Bible through discussion without missing the point. In this post I will point out 4 major challenges to leading an effective and interactive small group.

1. Distractions

Depending on the format and location of your gathering you may have to deal with noise from other groups, young children, or others passing by. You may also have to deal with those who misunderstand the nature of study or the point of the lesson by repeatedly steering the discussion off topic.

2. Dominant Personalities

Some people feel the need to be the center of attention everywhere they go. Even though they may not realize it, they dominate the discussion and make others feel uncomfortable.

3. Disinterested people

People come to a small group Bible study for different reasons. Some come on their own because they are genuinely interested. Others come because they have been forced to come or manipulated into coming by someone else. Even people who have the best intentions sometimes struggle to express themselves or connect with certain topics or discussions.

4. Delicate egos

Meaningful Bibles studies are bound to touch on sensitive issues from time to time. Even when handled delicately, some people are still offended or hurt. They may be carrying excessive emotional baggage or have an agenda, but these people allow their thin skin to spoil the group’s atmosphere.

What have I left out? What challenges have you come across while leading an effective and interactive small group Bible study?

We’re Headed to Ashland KY, and Unity Baptist Church!

It has been a long journey, but my family and I are finally headed home – to our new home in Ashland KY. This past Sunday, August 10, Unity Baptist Church voted to make me their next Senior Pastor. We are thrilled that God has made His will so clear and given us such a strong, loving, and prayerful church family.

As we prepare to make our move, I would like to express my gratitude to the people and organizations that helped and encouraged us along the way. I appreciate that Billy Yates and Alan Brady from Pedal Power Bike Shop let me live my childhood dream by building and selling bicycles. I am thankful for the people at Central Baptist Church in Paris and Cornerstone Baptist Church in Lexington who loved and accepted my family and allowed me to serve them as an interim pastor. I wouldn’t have made it through this transition without the help support I received from Paul Chitwood, Karl Babb, and the rest of the Kentucky Baptist Convention, Ronny Raines from First Baptist Church Bradfordville FL, and Ron Edmondson from Immanuel Baptist Church in Lexington In addition, David Stokes has been invaluable, even before he became the Executive Director of the Elkhorn Baptist Association (soon to be the Central Kentucky Network of Baptists). I also need to mention Kevin Milburn, Senior Pastor of Union Baptist Church, for being such a good friend and counselor.

Thank you again, everybody, for all your thoughts, well wishes, and prayers. We have some of the best friends and family in the world! We are excited to see what God has in store in Ashland. If you are ever in eastern Kentucky, stop in and visit us. We’d be glad to have you.

Devotional Thoughts for Leaders: How to Multiply Your Ministry

Ministry can be tiring, especially when you feel like you have to do everything yourself. Kingdom work never stops. There are always more people to care for and more opportunities to explore. Wouldn’t it be great if you could multiply your ministry without having to do something extra? It’s possible if you make up you mind to never minister alone.

Moses learned the hard way that it is “not good” to lead alone (Exodus 18:13-26). Elijah shared his ministry with Elisha (1 Kings 19:19-21, 2 Kings 2). Jesus choose twelve disciples, walked through life with them, trained them, sent them out, and held them accountable (Mark 6:7-21, 30). Paul continued this practice and always surrounded himself with a long list of assistants and associates, Timothy being the most notable (Colossians 1:1, 4:7-17).

Christian leaders who want to make a big impact on the world need to make one small decision: to never minister alone. Do as much ministry as you possible can with other people who are willing to learn. Not just for the sake of accountability, but for the sake of mentoring. The church is in desperate need of more leaders, so don’t waste your leadership experiences on yourself; share them with someone. This isn’t just for pastor and church staff. This is for anyone who is working to make a difference in the world for the sake of Jesus Christ and the Gospel. In the short term, the people that you bring along with you will encourage and challenge you. In the long term, they will multiply your efforts and continue making an impact when you are gone.

Here are 3 question to help you multiply your ministry:

1. Who can I invite to join me in ministry?
2. What do I do that I can share with someone else?
3. How can I help other people catch a vision for ministry mentoring?

Five Reasons Churches Struggle with Conflict

It is sad to say, but church and conflict seem to go together like peanut butter and jelly. The long running joke is that churches split over anything and everything, including something as insignificant to God’s kingdom as the color of the carpet. But have you ever stopped to wonder why? Here are five reasons why churches struggle with conflict:

1. Church members and leaders aren’t equipped to resolve conflict in a healthy way.

Disagreements are inevitable in ministry, but seminaries provide little training on conflict resolution. Since church leaders are not equipped to handle conflict effectively they don’t teach church members those skills. The conflict resolution skills that do exist in the church are either unintentionally brought in from some outside experience or sought out after failed attempts at handling conflict successfully.

2. Church members and leaders would rather ignore conflict than acknowledge it.

Everyone has their own personality. When it comes to conflict, many people would rather pretend that conflict doesn’t exist rather than do something about it. This approach might seem easy at first, but it always seems to make things more difficult and destructive in the end.

3. Church members and leaders bring years of unresolved conflict along with them.

The two previous reasons are compounded by the way church members and leaders move from church to church. When a new pastor or a new church member joins a church, they can bring their unresolved struggles. When these old struggles are layered over and combined with new conflicts it can be difficult to find solid emotional ground.

4. Poor leadership development and placement systems allow immature people positions of power.

Churches that have lost people through poorly managed conflict can be eager for “new recruits.” If these new members are talented or charming they can be thrust into positions of authority or influence without the proper preparation. The same can be true for members who have been around for a long time. These “veterans” can be given similar positions in the church with little thought to their spiritual maturity, giftedness, or character. Both scenarios perpetuate conflict by placing people who are unable to handle conflict in a situation where they are sure to encounter it.

5. Satan is the father of deception and he works to sow conflict in the church.

From the very beginning, Satan has been working to divide and conquer. The half-truths that he told in the Garden of Eden left Adam and Eve in conflict with God and with each other. Satan is still alive and well, sowing dissension and division among God’s people. If you look carefully, you can find dishonesty, distrust, and pride at the root of most church conflicts today.

The Gospel is a message of reconciliation. It tells us how sinful humans can be reconciled to a holy God and through that restored relationship, reconciled to each other. As we train new leaders and equip more people to follow Jesus Christ, we need to help them acknowledge conflict in the church and resolve it effectively. We also need to be aware of Satan’s corrupting influence.

What about you? Have you noticed any others reasons why churches struggle with conflict?